Monday, December 20, 2010

I Am NOT a People Pleaser...

When God was handing out the "people pleaser" gift - I must have skipped that line or was absent that day... Don't get me wrong I do love people.. I will help a friend or family member in need... I will also on occasion, skip what I want to do.. to do what someone else wants. .. There is a give and take.... I'm not a complete witch with a "b"... I will even volunteer in church and school activities when it's convenient for me ... But pleasing people is not on my top list of priorities... And I have to say this...

When I am asked a direct question - I will answer the question truthfully - the good.. the bad.. and the ugly.... I have learned if you are less than honest - the answer will come back to bite you...

When I am asked to do a favor by someone (regardless of who) - I will look at my obligations and if I can accommodate - I will but if I can't - I won't beat around the bush - a no is a no and a yes is a yes... AND I will not feel bad or guilty if I am unable to help.... Life is too short for that.. We do the best we can and move on...

I am not a "Politically Correct" woman.. I have my conservative beliefs and I will not make excuses for them nor will I feel bad that I feel a certain way... Each of us is entitled to our opinions and beliefs.... I believe we ALL must be accepting of one another even if my opinions and beliefs are right and everyone else is wrong

I believe that is there is only ONE way to Heaven - not different roads as Oprah and others may want me to believe... Wishing someone light and happiness - What does that mean anyway??? Do I really care? Or sending positive thoughts...huh????

Now - why am I ranting about this???? I recently was listening eavesdropping on a conversation between two women - they were gossiping about a person they knew mutually. They were complaining about what this person did and did not do for a certain activity... Then they started to toot their own horns about how wonderful they themselves were and all the sacrifices they make for others... And I have to tell you - I was so completely disgusted by these "God Fearing - Christian women"... I was so close to telling them a what for..... but I knew I'd embarrass my husband so I kept quiet..... This time....

If I was able to say something - I would have said something like this... "Do you ladies know that she is taking care of her mother... Do you ladies know that she is so far behind in her mortgage payment she may lose her home... Do you ladies know that she is working two jobs and comes to Church after her shift at work is over? Do you ladies know that she volunteers in a homeless shelter every Friday night? Or that she picks up clothes at garage sales to give to the needy? You two women sit in judgment? Tooting your own horns on how wonderful you are? When God tells us to do things pleasing to Him - For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10 Are we not suppose to do things in private... Not letting your left hand know what your right hand is doing? Matthew 6:3.... Wouldn't it be nice if you two would stop gossiping and get out there and start pleasing God and not yourselves?"

I would love to have had the courage to say the things that were on my mind.... but instead I ranted on my blog......

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  1. I wondered where you were going with the "people pleasing" thing. I hear you on the gossip/judgmental attitudes of those Christian Sisters...and I agree with the context of your scripture references. Now...about the people pleasing part: take a quick look at Colossians 3:12-17. I think these 5 verses (especially vs. 16) will give you what you need to approach your sisters who NEED to hear a good word, spoken in season and in love. I just bet you they would be grateful for an opportunity to see the error of their ways and choose a better way. :)

  2. Rosemary - great verses - Thank you!



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