When my husband asked me to marry him 21 years ago he said, "I want to marry you but only say yes if you believe divorce is NOT an option...." Well, I said yes to the big diamond ring and I said yes to the wedding but I wasn't thinking about marriage. I had no concept of marriage. I had no idea what real love was.
I can't say we have had a happy marriage, to be honest it pretty much sucked. I felt unloved and my husband felt disrespected. We fought about everything. So, I filed for divorce and paid an attorney a gross amount of money to make this marriage disappear. Then God stepped in...
First it was the Sunday sermons about marriage, commitment, and the affects divorce has on children. I had to start bringing tissue to church because I could not stop the tears. Next thing I know, friends who had no idea what was going on in my life started to call me just because I was on their minds and hearts. My husband was also getting his own calling cards from God.
Today, we are together and divorce is off the table. One truth I have learned thru all of this is that I could not love my husband because I could not give him what I didn't have. I had to surrender to God and learn to receive His love and only then did I learn to really love. Today, I want to love my husband. I want to serve him and be a part of his world.
1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three: but the greatest of these is love.