Friday, March 27, 2009

The Love Dare Day 23

Today's love dare was to remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that's stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
When I first read this dare, I thought to myself that's easy... I don't have any harmful addictions... I don't want to fool around with someone other than Dusty.. I don't watch porn via Internet or TV, and I don't hang out with friends who tear down my marriage..... So I'm basically perfect in this area...wrong...
The Title for today's love dare is Love always protects... I did not protect Dusty vulnerability. Whenever I felt slighted or wanted the upper hand consciously or subconscious I would say something about Dusty that would expose his vulnerable side. By that I mean, I would expose something he said or did that I am sure he did not want the public to would have been embarrassing.. But I would open my big mouth and just blurt it out.. wanting to put him down... wanting people to understand just how hard I have it....I didn't need someone to undermine my marriage.. I was doing it all by myself... I needed to protect Dusty and I didn't. I tore him down every chance I had. I should have Kept his vulnerability and secrets as if they were mine. Love hides the fault of others. It covers their shame, embarrassment..things that others outside of our marriage need not know. Proverbs 14:1 "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands".. I've been foolish. I will lift up Dusty to others and never tear him down again..
Tomorrow's Love Dare is to identify every object of lust in my life and remove it..


  1. I have never heard of anyone who has been SO affected by this book. I continue to pray that your marriage becomes all God intended.

    What do your girls think about things?

  2. Our home was truly a battlefield.. I had to give it to God and I keep wondering why I did not do it sooner. The kids have seen a difference..big time.. Thank you for your prayers

  3. Beautiful writing... I love how you make this seem like anyone can do it. It takes so much courage to share yourself and your marriage like this. I'm looking forward to following your evolution with Dusty...

    Praying for your marriage and your relationship

  4. Great point---I find I do this in front of my kids --in a sarcastic joking way---WOW it is not right. We should be lifting our hubbies up not tearing down....even jokingly!



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