The other day my two daughters and I were talking - talking about anything..... everything.. I just love those kinds of talks.. don't you... We talked about school, dating (scary), God, vacations, make up, and boys..... We talked about what it was like for me growing up.... They were both pretty shocked when they discovered that I did not have a cell phone (they were not invented yet), a computer, or an ipod... Technology has improved quite a bit since I was a kid - the clothes have gotten much better too - but - the feelings, emotions, and insecurities of the "teenager" is the same... Listening to my girls talk about what they feel today could have been me thirty (30) years ago....
It is very difficult for the girls to imagine me being a teen or a kid - On more than one occasion one of them has said that I wouldn't understand because I was a grown up... It's hard for them to imagine me dating - having sleep overs with friends - getting in trouble with my parents - having a crush on a boy - being rejected by the same boy (s) - dreaming of the future.. To my kids, I'm mom - not a girl... not a woman....sometimes not a person - I'm just mom - and that's okay..... and it makes me laugh.... especially when they ask me for permission to marry when they are thirty (30)....
My dream for the future is to have a relationship similar to the one my sister Debbie has with her daughters.. To always be close... To always know there is love... To enjoy each other... and when my niece called my sister her hero - that just about made me ball like a baby.... This is my dream to be the mom that my kids can always count on through thick and thin..... and one day they might even discover that I was a girl once too.....
I was under the impression that you were already there. :) Maybe they haven't told you yet but I have a feeling they believe it. :) Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't imagine my parents as kids, and I know it was the same for my kids. However, as they get older, the parents don't seem as old anymore. I know you'll have a great friendship with your girls, just like your sister does.
ReplyDeleteI wish for the same. I just hope that I can manage to encourage and grow that kind of relationship with my children. They are still very young (5, 2 and 1). When I look at your daughters in that picture, I think, Man...I will have one of those one day (and two big boys). How bizarre! How exciting! How scary.
ReplyDeleteIt does feel like yesterday when we were those "girls". I really feel the same in many ways. I'm sure you'll continue to have a great relationship with your girls as they get older.
ReplyDeletePretty picture.
Happy New Year!!!
Oh ... that was really nice! Your daughters are lucky to have you as their mom! :)
ReplyDeleteHope your New Year is off to a good start!
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What a great pic, they are beautiful !
ReplyDeleteA beautiful post. It made me think. I hope my son feels that way about me too, someday.
ReplyDeleteYour girls are beautiful. It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with them.
ReplyDeleteYour girls are just lovely!
ReplyDeleteIt is so endearing that you and the girls can discuss anything under the sun! So very important... Keep that line of communication open.