Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Moms Have A Very Full Plate

I think the "job" of a woman and mom has increased considerably over the last couple of decades... In the 60's and 70's - a woman got married .. quit her job... had kids... sent the kids off to school... had coffee with the other "house wives" ... came home.. cleaned house... made dinner.... tucked the kids in bed... took a shower... put on something "non-motherly" and.. well you know....

In the 80's and 90's - women were expected to get married.. have kids... after a few weeks off.. bring the kids to daycare.. go to work... pick up the kids from daycare (right before it closed).. rush home.. feed the kids... feed the husband... tuck the kids in bed..... clean the house.... take a shower... and "you know" but more often than not - she went to bed to sleep..... and the divorce rate increased... I think the reason for the divorce increase was that- the wife/mom would be resentful of her husband because many times when he came home - he was tired.. but still expected dinner on the table... the kids in a happy mood for him to enjoy... the house and clothes to be clean.. Many husbands just took things for granted and did not take into consideration that his wife worked all day too..... I really am not bashing husbands here.. Mostly because when they were growing up their moms did stay home and take care of the family.. and that expectation followed them into adulthood... And if a woman decided she wanted to stay home with the kids - many of her friends would look down on her.... and many times the "mom" would feel like she gave up "her life" because she wanted to be a "full" time mom...

Now in the 2000's - things started kind of reverting back to stay at home moms.. Many women gave up their jobs because they believed it was the right thing for their kids... And many times it definitely was... Another thing that really took off was home school... Out here in bloggy land - I have met so many moms who home-school their children... I recently spoke to a fellow blogger whose son was accepted into Duke University... he had started home school when it was frowned upon... Now look at him... It's amazing to me how things evolve....

Even though many moms have chosen to stay at home with the kids... Many of them have found out that they still need to bring in some income into the family... One working parent may not be enough for some families.... Many blogging moms and moms in general are starting up "at home" businesses... The Estsy on line shops are a big one... Blogging is another biggie.... I am a stay at home mom and I am also a self employed mom... And many times I find it so difficult to find a balance...

The cycle is again revolving.. or evolving however you may look at it... I personally see a very full plate for moms... Take care of our kids at home.... Keep the house clean... ( I do have help here every other week).. Make the meals.. Home school our kids (some of us).. AND bring monies in to help support the family.....

How Full Is Your Plate?


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  2. I absolutely find it difficult to find that balance between mom/wife/homeschool teacher. There are days when I want to run away but they are far and few in between:-)

  3. I'm currently a stay-at-home mom. It is not easy. My patience is tried on a daily basis.

  4. Many times I will hear my hubby say, "My dad never had to do this." when I ask him to help around the house.
    I remind him that his mother didn't hold down a full time job and had a housekeeper five days a week who not only took care of the cooking and cleaning but was a nanny to the kids. Her big decisions was what to wear to bridge.
    He now does those jobs around the house that his dad never had to do.

  5. I don't know how mother's do it! My daughter has to be at work at 7:30am but before she does she has to get herself ready, son ready and out of the house around 7:10am and that's just the start of her day!



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