Monday, March 16, 2009
Love Dare Day 12
Well Dusty came home today and to my surprise I missed him. We hugged at the door when he walked in and we had a long conversation on what happened this weekend. We sat down and listened to each other and we were actually interested. This is a big change from a couple of weeks ago. A couple of weeks ago, I would have become instantly angry without reason that he came home. I would not make him feel comfortable and he would hurry and go to the office. Today, he stayed with me for a couple of hours.. We hugged and kissed just happy to be together again.
Today's love dare was to demonstrate love by willingly choose to give in an area of disagreement between Dusty and I. Kind of funny, how God let me demonstrate this today. Okay, we have a dog. She's is a great dog who sometimes tinkles when she is excited or submissive. Sometimes this great dog will tinkle a little on our couch...... I always clean it super well with dog cleaner and smell pretty stuff and our couch is clean.. she only goes a little..... But Dusty hates her on the couch... He wants her on the floor and we give her lovin for us to go down to her.....
Well after her little tinkle accident this evening, Dusty asked me for probably the one hundredth time can we please have the dog stay off the couch? Even though I love to cuddle with her on the couch, I conceded. I told him okay and I will do my best to keep her off... That was hard because like I said I just love cuddling with her. She likes to climb on lap and sleep while I watch TV.
The dog on the couch has been a constant bone of contention...yes pun intended....So today, I followed the love dare and gave into what Dusty wanted not what I wanted. In the grand scheme of things, who really cares as long as there is peace in my marriage..
"I'm willing to go your way on this one," the argument never had a chance to start... The "old" Kelly would have fought for power.... The follow through may cost me some pride and discomfort, I have made a loving, lasting investment in our marriage.... I always was worried about looking foolish is I did not win the fight.....I never stopped to consider how foolish I looked when I was screaming at the top of my lungs and using words that no one should ever use, just to try to prove a point. That was more foolish than conceding a disagreement...don't you think?
Instead of treating Dusty like an enemy or someone to be guarded against, start treating him as my closest and most honored friend... I chose to honor the man I love...my husband Dusty..
I told my pastor the other day that this love dare stuff is pretty good. I've found a patience that I haven't had... I have no doubt that the road ahead can still be a difficult journey....today I am happy...
Tomorrow's dare is to set rules to "fight" by...hmm should be interesting....until then