A while back I took this quiz The Love Language Test'.. It was based on a book I had read called The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
. Taking this test opened my eyes to how I want to receive love.... It really really opened my eyes when my husband took it... But after I thought about his results... it made perfect sense... and I recognized all the signs and now know what to look for...The 5 Languages are: Words of Affirmation; Quality Time; Receiving gifts;Acts of Service; Physical Touch...
People tend to show love by using their own primary love language... This is an excellent way to discover that person's language... For my husband - he was tied at two primary languages.. Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch... He wanted me to acknowledge his efforts to be a good husband and a good father. He wanted to me to acknowledge when he did something unexpected around the house - like folding laundry... cleaning the kitchen... And when I did not say something - his feelings would be hurt and he would feel unloved... Many times I would see that he helped out... but I would not give much thought to it.. mostly because - it's something I do everyday and it's our home... But now that I know it's important to him to be affirmed - I try to remember to say - Thanks... He is also a physical touch person... Me not so much.. my score was 13% ... He likes to hold hands... Have his back rubbed.. I try to remember this...
My primary love language is Quality Time... I like to have conversations and receive 100% of his attention.. When he "listens" with his ears and not his eyes... I get hurt/mad... I want him to listen and look at me - all at the same time... Give me one on one... And being a "guy" during football, baseball, golf, basketball, and hockey season - he finds it difficult to give me my 'Love Language'... I do know that he is working on this...
This could also be used to figure out our kids' Love Language too... I do have say that loving someone is a choice... It's putting our hearts and minds into action...
What is your love language?
Fun post for Valentine's Day! I'm curious now how I will score on that test... But I don't like tests, LOL!
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog! That's sweet what your hubby did for you!
Hum, my hubby does a lot around here and when I get home, he shows me all that he did so that I can oooo and aaahhh at it because if I don't, he won't do any of it again.
ReplyDeleteI'll have to take the test and see ! Hope you are having a lovely day.....
ReplyDeleteGreat book! Hubby and I even facilitated a class on this book with our Married Couples' Ministry. Thanks for the reminder...I need to be a student of what I taught! LOL!
ReplyDeleteI have that book and I haven't finished it yet, but I think I might be acts of service.
ReplyDeleteHi Kelly! Thanks for stopping by my blog and for becoming a follower!
ReplyDeleteI really like this post (all of your posts actually... so applicable!) I took the test and found out I'm Acts of Service and Physical Touch. they said at the end of the quiz that you tend to nag the worst about the things you need the most, which typically pushes your spouse away and causes them to NOT want to do those things. I can attest to that!
Now if I can just get my husband to take it too... I wanna know his language. Thanks for sharing!
I did love this book and recommend it to many people. It was fun to take the quiz and very accurate. Had a couple do it today and it was so eye opening for them in what they struggle with. Quality time was tops for him and low with her. No wonder they are frustrated.
ReplyDeleteJay & I just talked about Valentines Day the other day and how I's overheard a friend of his telling him and a group of other guys how important it was for them all to be buying flowers for their wives for V day. I shared with Jay that he should save his money and spending time with him was more important to me. Took the test and of course my love language is quality time and the lowest score was for gifts - in fact a zero.
We all have our own love languages and if we can learn to speak our spouses love language what a fabulous way to tell them how much you love them!
Acts of Service here...
ReplyDeleteA couple of other couples courses that have meant a lot to my hubby and I are Trent & Smalley's Making love last forever and their personality test with the Lion Otter Beaver and Golden Retriever. So good to see how these difference are a compliment.
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