Have you ever been so angry at your kid that you lifted your voice so loud that the neighborhood could probably hear you with their doors and windows closed? Have you ever dropped your kid off at school and you're so angry that you can't even say "goodbye - love you".... Today - I did that.... Today - I was awful... Yes, kids will be kids.... and they will run late... they will have teenage attitudes.... they will talk back... But they learn from my examples ..... and today... this morning.. I failed MOM 101 - and I feel like crap!
After I dropped off said child - I pulled out of the parking lot.... and then I turned around. I went to her class and asked her to come out... I could see the redness of her eyes (she was so close to tears) - I told her I was sorry.. She said she was too... I said I was wrong... She said she was too.. I told her I love her more than one million peanut M & Ms and she told me she loved me more than 200 million peanut M & Ms.... I asked her to forgive me.... She asked me to forgive her... We both cried... we both hugged....
So I said - I guess I should take you to lunch today.... she said yes you should...... We had a special moment of forgiveness and understanding..... I am humbled by my daughter.....
I think most of us have had that kind of moment but haven't always gone back and taken care of the situation. You did good, and it's a moment your daughter will remember, because of your apology.
ReplyDeleteAnd I am humbled by this story.
ReplyDeleteWOW.....I am inspired by this.
Thank you.
I've had many moments like that. I'm impressed, though. I've never gone to my kid's class and made it right. I've always waited until after school. Instead, I've spent entire days kicking myself for being a bad mom. You did a good thing.
ReplyDeleteI think you did a great thing to go and make amends. You are a wonderful mom
ReplyDeleteOh no doubt you felt like a schmuck! One bad moment does not a bad mother make though and the same is true where your daughter is concerned. I have a feeling you both have a new-found respect for each other though. Oh and by the way, what did you have to drink with that serving of humble pie and did the restaurant charge you anything extra?
ReplyDeleteYour story nearly made me cry...
ReplyDeleteMy daughters forgive my failures all the time. They are better people than me and I need to learn from them.
Thanks for sharing! You may think you failed mom101 but you just earned a whole lot of gold stars!
That's awesome! Yep, been there and done that way too many times. Both ways though. There have been many car doors slammed in my face as SHE was too angry to say goodbye. I've never gone after her, she's in high school and would probably craft a voodoo doll and torture me if I walked into her school.
ReplyDeleteI've never apologized for the issues at hand, but I've apologized for tempers. For saying words I wouldn't normally say because she is the one person that can push me to the heights of psychoticness. Rollin' those eyes, girl. She does that so often I've started to wonder if it's a facial twitch.
But I hate those days like that when you spend the whole day feeling like Mommy Dearest. Ick. Good for you for turning it around early!
You did not fail Mom 101, you went back and made amends w/your daughter. Please be kind to yourself and what if I posted this story about me and my sons? (This has happened to us btw) Would you think I failed Mom 101? Can you please give yourself a little break?
ReplyDeleteParenting isn't for sissies, that's for sure.
Kelly,
ReplyDeleteYou didn't fail Mom 101, you successfully passed. See if you failed, you would have driven away, not apologize and definitely no lunch and brewed about it all day long. You made me cry just reading about what an incredible mom you were for not waiting and just going to your daughter right away. You are a great mom!
Love and Hugs ~ Kat
I agree with Heart2Heart, you passed with flying colors. You made the enemy angry too! LOL!
ReplyDeleteWhen you admitted you were wrong and asked for forgiveness, you proved that you're a great mom!
ReplyDeleteYou didn't fail, you passed! You pulled her out of class to apologize. Most moms would have waited until the end of the day, if they apologized at all. I can learn from you! Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWow, what a great story. I think that means you've passed MOM 301!
ReplyDeleteDo you know that 5 years ago, in my daughters final year of school, I lost it one day. It was stupid and over something that only seemed important at the time. Just today I realized that I had never apologized to them and I planned to write each of them tomorrow. And here I find your post as a great reminder that this is EXACTLY what needs to be done. TOday you did what God directed you to do...and you redeemed yourself in the eyes of your daughter. I doubt very much that the failing grade was permanent.
ReplyDeleteWe all have those moments. Be thankful you were able to evaluate your actions and make good on them. Many people don't have that ability, or are too stubborn to do so.
ReplyDeleteHow wonderful that you shared this. I have this ego thing going on, of which I am not proud, and find apologizing so difficult.
ReplyDeleteThere is an award waiting for you on my blog! :)
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