Why Is It So Important To Be Right?

This is my Saturday rant..

One of the things that drives me INSANE is that many people will not accept responsibility for their own actions or lack of action... Instead of focusing on what is needed to get things done - They are too busy trying to give their version of their truth out to the masses and pointing their fingers and placing blame on others...

We see it everyday.... With our government... Our children... Between our friends... and many times we Are Looking In The Mirror.....

Why is it so important to be right?? Why are so many people busy pointing their fingers out inside of in???

What happened to good character?? Character defined as "Doing the right thing when no one is looking"...

We live in a world where it seem that anything goes... Everything is okay - as long as it's not hurting anyone.... I personally think that is sad.....

We need to make the difference - We need to show courage and Show that it's okay to be wrong....

To Boob or Not To Boob - That is the Question.....

I come from a family of big boobed women so when my mom had a double mastectomy last Spring - I kind of thought she was lucky to get them off - Don't get me wrong - the reason for the procedure sucked - Cancer Sucks... Lost too many loved ones to this awful horrible disease...(Thank God - mom is cancer free now) But the thought of no boobs - kind of sounded appealing to me.... This is why..

I can never see my feet - I have stepped on my dog - my cat - tripped over stools... Going down our stairs everyday - is a feat -This is NOT fun.

I can never wear button down shirts - everything is either zippered or pull over - If I want to wear a button down - I have to get about 3 sizes too big - it will fit the boobs but everywhere else I am swimming...

Whatever I am eating usually ends up on my chest.... Soup? Forget about it.. I have to bring the bowl to my lips... Most times I have to hold a napkin under my utensil to avoid an accident...

When I go out to restaurants - I have to make sure the table is not too close or my boobs will rest on it....

Having big boobs - my super sized bigger than life boobs that have never had a nip or tuck but are quite capable of hiding my belly button boobs are not fun.... nor are they sexy.. at least not anymore...

Today - my mom is currently at the hospital getting her new boobs... Over the past several months she has had a spreader and fluid bags in her chest and the doctor would inject fluids every few months... Today - they are taking out the spreaders and hard fluid bags (this will be a relief for her - they have been painful) and putting in soft squishy bags to give her back her "chest" Granted she will now be "normal" sized - but honestly boobs or no boobs - my mom is beautiful.....

Last Spring - I had my annual mammogram - and it came back abnormal... The doctor suggested that I meet with a surgeon and an oncologist to determine if I should keep mine or not... Faced with this decision is somewhat scary... I have not done anything.. yet. I am suppose to get checked every six (6) months - ultrasound/mammogram/MRI... But in all honestly - I am seriously considering having them removed... and I honestly do not know if I would want them back - regardless of the size.. I know I am "young" by some standards... I will 46 in a few weeks... My husband - of course would have some say - after all - he gets more use out of them it is a big decision.... I'm guessing that I will have a talk with my mom after she has recovered and I'll ask her if she thinks it was worth it...

What Would You Do?

A Day In My Teenage Daughter's Life

A Typical School Day For My High School Sophomore

6:10 AM - I wake up her up - by turning her light on and being very annoying... I have been known to break out into song...

6:15 AM - Get up... Get up...

6:20 AM - Me yelling - "Are you up?" Her mumbling "Yeah..."

6:30 AM - Me yelling again... "Are you up?" Her: "What? I can't hear you.... What?" Me: "Are you up?" Her "Now I am..."

7:10 AM - Eat a quick breakfast prepared by my loving hands... cereal, fruit, toast, donuts (shh), waffles, or any other quick nutritious meal...

7:30 AM - Out the door. In the car - I double check and triple check that she has everything - purse, huge tennis bag, binder, book, and tote...

7:40 AM - Arrive at school - watch in awe as she juggles all her junk

8:00 AM - 2:15 PM - Normal school - Chemistry - Advanced Algebra - Spanish 2nd year - and her other required courses..

2:15 PM - 4:20 PM - tennis if there isn't a match

2:15 PM - 6:30 PM - tennis if there is a match...

6:40 PM - Home - dinner

7:00 PM - 11:00 - homework... It would be shorter time if she stayed on task but her mind wonders to You Tube - Desperate Housewives on her IPod - netflix. Now she turns in her cell and IPod to me before homework... but she still manages to daydream...

If she is lucky - She may have time to go to her church youth group on non-game days... I try to make sure that she has some fun on the weekends - I don't want her to completely burn out.. Last Friday night she went to Knott "Scary" Farm with friends - the weekend before Homecoming dance... She needs "down" time... and "fun" time...



To get into a four (4) year university - it's much tougher today than it was even four (4) years ago... Over a 4.0 average is expected by many... Minimum of 3 years of advanced math preferred 4.. Minimum of 2 years of a foreign language - preferred 4, Minimum of 2 years of a lab science such as biology and chemistry - preferred 3 and highly preferred classes to be Advanced Placement (AP). Must have a minimum of three (3) AP classes during high school.. AP English is definitely expected.... The competition is fierce for these classes.. For my kid to qualify for the class next year - She must maintain a 95% or higher both semesters in English AND write an essay AND complete an application and interview... then the English department reviews it.. In addition to the class requirements - SAT scores must be outstanding... Must be involved in extra curricular activities - not just a sport... She is also in a few community service clubs.. She will be going down to Mexico soon to volunteer at an orphanage...

Expectations For Teens Are Just Crazy Nowadays!

Christians Are The #1 Turnoff

The other day a friend of mine posted on her Facebook status - about how tired and disappointed she gets when she sees people post "Keep "Christ" in Christmas and then goes out to the stores and buy their kids a bunch of crap... and I have to say this - I completely agree with her...

Most of my friends are Christians - I am also a Christian.. I believe very strongly that Jesus is the Son of God- I believe very strongly that He died on the cross - I believe very strongly that when I die I will go to Heaven AND I believe very strongly that many Christians are the #1 reason that many non-believers will NEVER give God a chance....

My Top Ten Christian Dos and Don'ts

10. Everyone on Facebook knows that Christmas is a Christian holiday - "Keep Christ" in Christmas on every other post - really isn't needed - it's annoying...

9. Stop Telling people how to live - Show people how YOU live

8. Open your ears when others talk - your opinion is NOT the only one that matters. (I am personally working on this one)

7. Stop sending emails to get others worked up about our President - about the "Holiday Tree" - About Christians being persecuted by our country - Honestly most of those crappy emails are complete fabrications and they are so 'Un-Christian'...1 Corinthians 4:12 -We work hard with our own hands. When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it;

6. Show goodness - volunteer in areas that are NOT Christian related - Random acts of kindness to those less fortunate than yourself.

5. Knock the Christian chip off your shoulder - that is such a turn off to non-believers AND Christians... Be Real..

4. Love your neighbor - not with words but with actions- Take care of them without asking for gratitude - Just love - "Bringing attention to your "good deeds" takes your good intentions away" So just do it and shut up...

3. Stop being sad all the time - weepy Christians -drive me INSANE... Life is hard - got it - it's hard for EVERYONE - God does not promise us that this life will be pleasant - The way you handle hardship and sadness shows how deep your relationship is with Him.... I am always in awe of those who suffer greatly but still have the capacity to love others with out ceasing... (I want to be like that)

2. Share God's word by your actions, life style.. If you live in a Godly way - others will see it and want a piece of what you have... That is when the sharing of the Gospel is effective - shoving it down the throats of others - doesn't work - it only pushes them away....

1. Lastly - Pray - Pray for yourself to be closer to Him.. Pray for others to know Him.. Pray for wisdom - patience - the ability to love without ceasing... Pray that you are a living example of what God wants His children to show....

Prayers Still Needed For Haley

Many of you have been following the story of Haley.. She is a young girl who is suffering from a life threatening disease called Myelodysplastic Syndrome (MDS)..

Haley received the much needed bone marrow donor and transplant in August... Unfortunately - things did not work out the way we had hoped... First - Haley developed a very serious fungal infection in her lungs - the worst kind she could have gotten and was put in ICU on life support... The doctors believed Haley would not make it and advised the family to say their goodbyes... But then - they decided to try and use donor white cells to fight the infection - People all over heard the need and showed up at UCLA for the long 3 day process of extracting their white cells to save Haley's life... Today -the infection is mostly gone and she is off life support... The bad news is this...

Yesterday - the family learned that the white cells that Haley is producing are her own.. The donor marrow is not working... Haley will undergo another bone marrow biopsy to confirm the blood tests but it does not look good.. What this means is that - Haley will most likely have the infected part of her lung removed - once the infection is completely out of her body - she will undergo chemotherapy - to prepare her body for another bone marrow transplant... First a donor must be found... again.

If you are healthy - please get tested to be a match - it's a simple swab of your mouth -that's it.. That simple test could help save the life of a child or adult.... For more information on being a donor - you can go to Be The Match. You can also help the family and Be The Match by donating money for the testing. A paypal link is on the sidebar - all monies go to Haley's family.

You can send cards and letters addressed to: For Haley - 9808 Mistletoe Ave - Fountain Valley, CA 92708. Email can go to KMLDRL@aol.com...

Thank you.